Happy Mother’s Day! I love being able to celebrate my mom and tell her how extra special she is to me. We had a pretty low key day. We got our nails done and I made a yummy dinner of baked ziti and chocolate cream pie (her fav).
Unless you know me on a very personal level, or it has happened to come up in conversation, most people don’t know that I am adopted.
It’s not something I bring up a lot. Not for any particular reason…being adopted is a part of who I am, but it’s not solely who I am. It’s just a simple fact to me now, just like saying my eyes are brown. I was adopted as an infant and I always knew I was adopted. My parents and I always had open conversations about my birth mother and their story of how they adopted me.
I cherish my mom and my late dad for giving me such a wonderful life and raising me how they did. I do hope to one day find and meet my birth mother. I am curious to see what she looks like, to see if she is anything like me or if I am anything like her, to learn about her and her life. And most importantly, to say thank you.
Every Mother’s Day my mom and I always toast to my birth mother and send her well wishes. In honor of Mother’s Day here’s a letter to my birth mother.
Dear Birth Mom,
These are the two words that I have wanted to say to you for years. Twenty seven years ago you made what was probably the hardest decision of your life. I have often pictured you, holding me in your arms, wiping away tears as you go back and forth on the pros and cons of your decision to put me up for adoption. What it would mean for you. What it would mean for me.
I want to let you know that you made the right decision. I have had a wonderful life and have been loved by two of the most loving people in the world. They cared for me and supported me. Enrolled me in a variety of activities such as soccer and jazz. They set up piano lessons and voice lessons for me. They got me a math tutor and made sure I always had the best tools to succeed. I went to sleepovers and dances at school. We went on family trips, where many memories were made. But most of all they loved me. Which I know, for you, was probably the most important thing you could have asked for.
To me, you are the bravest person I’ve ever known, even though I have never met you. I have thought countless number of times what I would do if I had been in your position. And each time it pains me to even think about the confusion, frustration, anger and hurt that you must have been facing.
I hope to one day meet you and to tell you all of this in person. But for now I will continue to send you well wishes and hope that you are living the life that you always wanted to live.